10 Guest Complaints about wedding receptions...
You need to know this weather you wan to or not...After all the wedding Peter Bruce Photo and bELLE fiine weddings we have done, we have seen it all. And we don't want to be a downer here, but want to help.We all know the saying "You can't please everyone all the time" While that may be very true, these types of guest criticisms are easily avoided by careful planning and thinking and addressing them now will make everyone's memories of your wedding day so much nicer. Trust us you will thanks us for pointing these facts out.
1... The DJ was obnoxious or played loud and lousy music. Find the best wedding DJ available using recommendations from other brides and the advice of wedding industry professionals. But can they think about where he puts the speaker, if he needs to get the sound to the other side of the room, don't put it near the guest next to them...run a cable.
2... I was never thanked for my gift! Share this task with your husband. Divide your list, write your notes at the same time, and make a pact to finish a certain number every night until they are finished. Dangle a carrot in front of your noses. When the last note is FINALLY written, reward yourselves with a special bottle of wine or dinner out. It is customary to mail thank-you notes within three months. You don’t want to wait that long for your carrot anyway, do you? How would you like to be treated.
3... Speeches were WAY TOO LONG and we couldn't decipher the words. Keep speeches under five to six minutes. Ideally, they should last between two and four minutes. A good DJ will spend a few moments with each person making a toast or speech, teaching him or her how to correctly operate and speak into the microphone. He will also use a quality microphone!
4... We didn't know anyone at our table. Take the time to carefully plan your seating arrangement, placing guests at tables with others they know. They don’t have to be fast friends, just acquaintances or people with some kind of connection. Try to seat out-of-town guests, who aren't likely to know anyone, with others having similar interests. But guests if you do get stuck at a table with people you don't know, go out of your way to meet the people and have fun.
5... I resented paying a dollar or more to dance with the bride. This is cheap and I have always thought so.Unless it’s a long-standing family tradition, and you will offend someone if you break the ritual, the money dance is best forgotten.
6... We stood to long in the receiving line... The newly weds, and their parents are the only required greeters. Better yet, couples should instead consider visiting individual tables during or immediately following dinner.
7... We had too much time to "kill" between the ceremony & the reception. Out-of-town guests are often at a loss for ways to fill the time between a two o'clock wedding and a six o'clock reception. Try to keep the down time to a minimum. When it isn't possible to hold the events within an hour or so of each other, ask the hall if it will open its doors early for your visiting guests (and ask them if there’s a charge). Other options include asking relatives or close friends to invite them to their home for a light snack, or arranging a hospitality suite for them at their hotel.
8... The centerpiece was so big that I couldn't see or talk to guests seated across the table. Smaller, shorter arrangements are best. Your center pieces shouldn't be the center of attention (or main topic of conversation) at the table.Our florist Chelsea would NEVER do this, you want to see the people at your table.
9... I was offended that I had to pay for drinks at least beer & wine should be free . Open bars are the accepted norm. If your budget is tight, offer wine and beer only -- or limit drink choices to “call” brands. You can also close the bar during the dinner hour to save money on costs.
10... The bride and groom didn't stop by to say hello. Make the rounds of guest tables at your reception, but don’t spend too much time at each. A quick greeting, thank you or compliment will suffice. People want to talk to you.
Well again we hope this helps and please let us know..